Blogger Love | How to Write Thoughtful Blog Comments

Blogger Love | How to Write Thoughtful Blog Comments | Blog Etiquette 101

Fun fact: I am probably the shyest extrovert you’ll ever meet. As a shy individual, it was a challenge for me to muster the courage to connect with other bloggers and leave comments. But Y’ALL – I’m so glad that I pushed myself out of my comfort zone to network!

Please keep reading if you’re looking for simple, tangible tips on (1) breaking out of your comfort zone and (2) comment-writing etiquette (for blogs AND social media).

3 Tips for Networking with Other Bloggers

Try blog comment threads | If I sound like a broken record, it’s because I cannot emphasize enough how easy blog comment threads make it to connect with other bloggers. I suggest trying to connect with bloggers who (1) write content that you’re interested in or that is similar to yours AND/OR (2) connecting with bloggers who’ve indicated they’ll “return comments.”

Join an Engagement Pod | Although this is more common for platforms like Instagram, Engagement Pods can be a great space to connect with other bloggers. I’ve created genuine friendships with some fantastic bloggers this way (y’all know who you are <3).

Focus on building relationships with 1 – 2 bloggers (at first) | This probably sounds strange, but try focusing on building relationships with a small network of bloggers. It can be overwhelming (and ineffective) to think you need to connect with thousands of people to grow. What good is it to have thousands of followers if no one engages with your content?

Start small and work your courage up until you feel comfortable leaving a comment. “liking” and “retweeting” content can go a long way.

5 Dos and Don’ts for Writing Thoughtful Comments

1. DON’T link drop | Whether it is done on social media or on someone else’s blog, out-of-context link-dropping is hands-down one of the rudest blogging behaviors.

From a social media perspective, out-of-context link dropping is when someone drops a link on a thread without providing any context to the content. To be fair, this behavior is perfectly fine when done on a blog-comment or blog-link thread that is hosted by a Blogger Retweet Account (check out this post for 40+ Blogger Retweet Accounts)…because this is expected!

So when is this behavior rude? If another blogger hosts a “link drop” thread on Twitter, it is common courtesy to introduce yourself or to provide context regarding the post you are sharing…especially if you are not acquainted with the blogger hosting the thread. Think about it like this: if you’re meeting someone for the first time, would you immediately ask them to do you a favor without introducing yourself first? I don’t think so.

When is link-dropping potentially rude from a blog-comment perspective? Linking or promoting your own content on another blogger’s post is rude, unless that blogger has specifically asked you to share a link. There are exceptions to this “rule,” such as when you use your blog URL in your comment signature, but this behavior is a big “no-no” otherwise. Again, think about it like this: if you were attending a book reading at a bookshop, would you interrupt the visiting author to read a passage from your own work? I don’t think so.

2. DO use a blog signature | As I briefly mentioned above, referencing your blog URL in an email signature is an effective and courteous way to promote your blog… particularly when connecting with (1) new bloggers and (2) bloggers who use a different blogging platform or comment-hosting program (ex. Blogger, WordPress, Wix, Disqus).

Also, if you are blogging on a platform such as WordPress, make sure that your blog URL is properly linked to your account. There are countless bloggers who I’ve tried to follow after a thoughtful comment exchange, but was unable to due to a broken blog link.

3. DON’T write a generic comment | I strongly caution against leaving generic comments because you’re unlikely to build a relationship or good exchange from this type of comment. Generic comments are statements that have no actual substance to them (ex. “great post,” “nice post,” “thanks for sharing these ideas” etc.).  Why don’t these types of comments work? These comments don’t give the writer any indication that you’ve actually read his or her work. Instead, comments like this could indicate that you are phishing for comments in return. These are totally fine statements to use in conjunction with additional details, but are otherwise meaningless on their own.

4. DO write a well-thought comment that pulls from the writer’s post | If you find the prospect of commenting daunting, try using this formula to help you get started:

Compliment + Context + Signature/Sign-Off = Thoughtful Comment

A compliment can be as simple as “Great post” or “thank you for sharing” but should provide additional context as to what specifically you liked about the author’s post. For example,

“Thank you for sharing this post. I really loved your advice regarding effectively tagging your blog posts – I’m going to start implementing this strategy in my future posts. Happy Blogging!

XX, The Newbury Girl |”

A thoughtful comment doesn’t have to be a long paragraph (although it can be if you want), but it should clearly indicate to the author that you’ve actually taken the time to read his or her post. Asking a thoughtful question or responding to a blogger’s question prompts could be another way to signal that you’ve taken the time to read the author’s post.

5. Don’t Neglect Comments | This should go without saying, but don’t neglect those who take the time to comment on your posts. Personally, I’ve stopped commenting on bloggers’ posts when I consistently show support but receive no acknowledgement back. While I recommend responding to a comment, with another comment… a simple “like” will suffice to let the commenter know that you’ve read his or her comment. As you grow your following, this may become challenging. However, chances are if you’re reading this post then returning comments should be doable.

Personally, I’ve become friends with other bloggers through blog commenting. Why miss out on an opportunity to make a new friend?


So what’s the big takeaway? Online people are still real people. As such, we need to remember to treat our online friends and acquaintances with the same courtesy we would treat others if we met them in-person.

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33 thoughts on “Blogger Love | How to Write Thoughtful Blog Comments

  1. Wow! This is some really well researched and thoughtful article you just wrote.
    I agree that directly dropping links and asking for follow in comment section is rude.
    Only comment when you’ve actually read the post and liked it. Then you can share your honest thoughts and opinions about it.

    Keep writing and sharing wonderful content ❤️

    (Hope this one’s ideal comment? 😜)

  2. Girl, this is absolutely spot on! XO You’re so right. I can confirm that leaving thoughtful comments can make a huge difference. I always try to return comments on all of my posts and I appreciate everyone who does the same, like YOU. I’m so glad we personally became friends through blog commenting. Thank you for sharing these tips! I hope more people would implement these tips! (:

    Much love always,
    GABBY |

  3. Great post! 🙂 No really–these are good tips. I especially like number 5. I’ve also quit trying to connect with certain bloggers once they’ve ignored me several times. There are plenty others willing to engage.

    1. I’m so sorry that you’ve had negative experiences with other bloggers and hahah I’m glad that you found this helpful. Commenting can definitely be scary and/or frustrating when you take the time to support someone but don’t feel like you’re being heard. Happy Blogging!

  4. 🙂 One of the reasons why I receive so many comments on my blog is that I always make a conscientious effort to respond to them in a timely manner. People like it when we respond to their comments.

    Oh, and I am not fond of those generic comments either.

    I have also noticed that a lot of WordPress bloggers do not update the URL on their Gravatar Profile whenever they switch to a new blog. It is somewhat annoying to be forwarded to a message that tells us that the person’s blog no longer exists when we click on their name.

    1. Thank you so much for your comment – I think it is awesome how engaged you are with your readers! I admit, sometimes I’m a little slow to respond to comments but I try to get back to people as quickly as I can!

      And yes – I agree that it can be so frustrating trying to follow a blogger with a blog that isn’t properly connected! Sometimes, I will try to let those bloggers know (if I can). One of my friends on WordPress actually had to notify me that my link became broken when I renamed my blog!!

      Happy Blogging! 🙂

    1. Aw I’m so glad that you found this helpful! <3 It can be really scary to put yourself out there, but most people are really kind in return. Hope you feel more courageous to interact with others through comments now!! 🙂

  5. Loved this post! There’s nothing worse than generic comments that seem like they didn’t even take the time to read your post! Some great tips in here! I’ve always enjoyed exchanging comments with you and having conversations ☺️!! Thanks for the post! 💕

  6. This is such a smart, helpful post, LP. I have been looking forward to your commentary on this because you are one of the most thoughtful commenters I know. You always make it clear you’ve read whatever review by how you comment. Thank you again and again for all YOUR thoughtfulness. ♥️

    1. Aw thank you!!!! I’ll admit, I had to edit this one a few times because I was slightly annoyed when I originally wrote this and it showed (LOL!). I think the tamed-down version still got my points across hahaha.

  7. Love this post! I really hate it when people promote themselves in the comments instead of leaving a positive comment that pertains to the post or comments a generic ‘great post’
    When I go to someone’s blog and see that they never answer or respond to comments, I then feel like not commenting because it seems as if the blogger doesn’t care about the people who visit them.
    Thanks for sharing these tips.

    Loren |

    1. Thank you so much for your comment, Loren! I 100% agree with you – it can be frustrating when people use the comment section to promote themselves (without being asked.. I’ve def asked for links before though!). And I agree that ignoring comments doesn’t leave the best impression on new visitors to a blog.

  8. I love getting comments that show that you actually read the post. I am still new at this but I really agree that you can build connections. And I’ve definitely made a connection with a few. And I am so looking forward to getting to know some more bloggers.

    Thanks for sharing this.

    1. I’m so glad to hear that you’re connecting with other bloggers!! It makes a world of difference to have friends out there to connect with regarding blogging (and it is cool to get to know people from all different walks of life and places around the globe!). Happy Blogging!

  9. These are some really good tips. It’s really important to actually read posts and pull ideas from the post to write about in the comment. It is frustrating to get ‘great post’ because it really isn’t giving any feedback about the post! I always love getting your comments on my posts because they actually talk about what I’ve written!! X

    1. Aw thank you girl – I’m sorry that I’m a little behind with commenting (as usual), but I’m so glad that you enjoy reading my comments! I always feel inspired to travel or step out of my fashion comfort zone whenever I read your posts!!

  10. Such a thoughtful and kool post! Really great tips I will most definitely keep some in mind.

    Shanice |

  11. This is a really important aspect of blogging and engagement that I never really hear anybody talk about so I’m glad you’re talking about it. People need to be polite and genuine when it comes to engaging for it to be useful for anybody. You’ve really hit the nail on the head with advice and etiquette. I hope people read it and take notes!
    Alex xx

  12. Thank you for this post. I’ve been blogging for a little while but have let my introverted ways get the better of me and haven’t been commenting up until a few days and it’s amazing what a difference it makes. There’s some really good handy ideas you’ve brought up in here though. X

    1. It took me months to build up the courage to really start connecting with others, so I totally understand. So glad you found this helpful and that you’re connecting with other bloggers! 🙂

  13. Yes yes yes! I loved this post. I agree with everything you’ve written. I have stopped commenting & following blogs who don’t acknowledge me, too. It’s like… no matter how good the content is, it never feels good to be ignored! It makes their content less appealing somehow lol.

    1. lol! I’m so glad that you agree – I was nervous that people might think I was being petty hahah 😂 😂

      And I agree about the content seeming less appealing – I know I’m guilty of delayed responses, but I try my best to get back to everyone lol (eventually)!

      1. You are not being petty in the slightest, in my opinion but maybe we both are LOL. Delayed responses are better than none. 😀 I love your blog & chatting back & forth with you!

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