As I write this post, I am sitting on a worn-out, secondhand couch left by a former roommate. Currently, this is the only piece of furniture in my apartment that is suitable for sitting. Like many Bostonians, I am moving out of my apartment on September 1st. At this point, much of my furniture has been sold or given to others for free.
My apartment, while spacious and affordable (when split four ways), isn’t a glamorous space. Nor is it the most up-to-date. However, this place has been my home for the last two years.
As I pack up the last of my things, I cannot help but feel a sense of overwhelming nostalgia, as well as trepidation for the future. In some ways, this particular move feels like the end of my childhood sense of self.
This is not my first major move. Each time I moved I can’t help but reflect on my life. What am I doing with my life? Who am I? Am I happy?
One House. Two Dorm Rooms. Four Apartments. Two Continents. Five Cities. And here I am. Given the constant state of change in my life, I refer to this period as the Transient Twenties.
What does transient mean?
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines transient, as:
(1) passing especially quickly into and out of existence
(2) passing through or by a place with only a brief stay or sojourn.
Both definitions seem fitting.
During this stage of life, we adolescents begin the truly terrifying (and exciting) journey of figuring out who we are, what we want to do, and where we want to be. We’re moving in and out of apartments, to-and-from large cities. We are leaving the best friends from our childhood behind and forging new relationships or facing changing relationship dynamics. We’re learning to love ourselves and love others. With every move and life change, we never return to our previous ways of living.
Who am I and what do I want in life?
As I progress farther into my twenties, I’m beginning to wonder more about how I want to lead my life. What steps I can take to chase my dreams? An academic at heart, I hope to further my education to develop tangible skills and connections needed to help me succeed.
But ultimately, I need to develop a strong sense of self-confidence and an unrelenting, courageous spirit. A creature of habit, I need to become comfortable in taking risks that may be off the beaten path. Furthermore, I need to stop comparing myself to others. There is no universal measure of success. Moreover, facing failure provides us with opportunities to grow.
What am I doing?
This move feels particularly poignant because I am moving back home. While I love my parents (they are my best friends), I’d be lying if I didn’t express some sense of disappointment.
Nevertheless, I am using this change to motivate me to truly chase my dreams. Also, the change will help me to continue to cultivate an attitude of gratitude. In other words, I am actively looking for micro-moments of happiness and reasons to be thankful instead of reasons to “despair.”
Final Thoughts on the Transient Twenties
Over the next few weeks, while I unpack my feelings (and my things), I will blog about my journey. In particular, I will be focusing much of my content within the realm of minimalism, smart consumerism, and beauty reviews/empties etc.